It’s Not So Easy to Party

It’s Not So Easy to Party
This week, a friend of mine held a cocktail party for those of us who offered her assistance while her husband was hospitalized at the same time she'd had the flu. Little did she know what a thrill it was for me to have been able to help on the day she needed me. I'd been the one asking for a favor rather than the one granting one too many times in my life. I felt like I owed her a party instead! These days, I have mixed feelings about attending parties of any kind. On one hand, it's an occasion for socializing. Being the "people person" I am, this opportunity is always welcome. On the other hand, parties can be difficult for people with fibromyalgia. The first hurdle is the drink. Almost everyone I know drinks alcohol socially. I do, too, on days when I'm not feeling nauseous from IBS or when I'm not taking a medication that doesn't mix. But rather than discuss my digestive difficulties, I always accept half a glass of wine. There's an art to nursing that half-glass for an entire evening, and I've learned that art really well. The next hurdle is the food. For a gluten-sensitive and lactose-intolerant person like me, this can be the biggest challenge. My policy is always to eat before I go. This way I'm not tempted to try items that may contain problematic ingredients. Raw veggies and potato chips (without the dips) are my go-to party foods. Luckily, they take up lots of room on a plate, so it appears you're eating a lot when you're not. Once you have a glass in one hand and food in the other, the next challenge appears. It's time to socialize! This is the highlight of the evening, when people stand around and talk. I'm fine with the talking part. It's the standing I don't do well. For whatever reason, it's a far greater strain on my fatigued muscles to
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  1. Sharon says:

    So true, so true. I can identify with everything you said. The only thing I would add is I find it very tiring to converse with people, especially in a group setting.

    Add to that the brain fog, trying to keep up a running conversation is hard when there are other distractions, such as noise, smells, lights, etc.

    Thank you for the article, it is nice to know I’m not alone and others feel the same way.

    Thank you

  2. W.D. Baker says:

    I AM sorry but the first hurdle it’s getting dressed and then hoping but your hair is OK because you have not been able to take a shower for almost a month . I don’t drink alcohol and yes the food is a problem…. getting me there is more of a problem. A pain problem, It puts me in so much pain to get there (I cannot drive anymore) and by the time I get there I still have to sit in the car about 15 minutes before can go in . The second hurdle is being able to find a chair I can sit in . the only chair I can sit in at home is a rocking chair I cannot sit on the couch and I cannot lay on the bed unless I am looking straight up to the ceiling . The next hurdle is to be able to talk to people without being in so much pain that I have to put my head down to my lap this person who wrote this article is 100% more healthy then I am and most people better on fibromyalgia community website . She is lucky she could attend at all . Walking causes great pain and so does standing. I only 52 and I feel like I am in my early 80s

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