I’ve learned a great deal from having fibro. Some are lessons I wish I’d never experienced, while others have made me a better person. Following are five things I've learned:
1. It’s OK to say 'no.'
I spent most of my life trying to please everyone, so I rarely uttered the word “No.” Now it seems like the only answer to every question I'm asked. Saying no was something I hated to do. I felt like I was letting people down. Learning how to say it and not feel guilty was difficult.
I came to the realization that my body will not allow me to do everything I would like to. It isn't my fault and I should not feel guilty for it. I no longer volunteer or sign myself up for events or projects, because I can't always keep my commitments. I hate to cancel at the last minute, but there are times when it is necessary. I've talked with family and friends so they understand there are times when I can’t make it due to my health. If they don’t understand, that is their problem, not mine.
2. Not all doctors know what they are doing.
Doctors are normal, everyday people. They make mistakes. They don’t know it all. They have bad days and sometimes make decisions they shouldn’t. If I think any medical professional doesn’t understand what I am saying or they don’t listen to me, I’m out of there. Time for a new doctor. Getting a second, or even third opinion is not a bad thing. If it doesn’t feel right to me, I go elsewhere.