Consider the “In Sickness” Part of Your Wedding Vows

Consider the “In Sickness” Part of Your Wedding Vows
When you are a healthy bride and you're standing there with the groom repeating your wedding vows,  you never anticipate having to deal with the "sickness" part of those vows. It's a fabulous, glorious day and all you see ahead of you is love and minor speed bumps in the road of your romance. No one anticipates a spouse will receive a diagnosis that will become life-altering for both of you. Enter fibromyalgia. Some spouses will find it more difficult because this is not what they bargained for. What makes it even more challenging is that FM is such a crazy illness, where symptoms can change daily, even hourly. It may appear you are just being lazy or looking for attention. You and I know that's not the truth. No one in their right mind would choose this. If one of the couple is diagnosed early in the marriage before deep levels of trust have been developed, the marriage may not survive. Counseling and help from friends and family to relieve some of the burden on the spouse that is well, will take some pressure off the marriage. It will keep you from feeling less like patient and caretaker, and more like husband and wife. When the one with FM has a good day, do something together that you both enjoy. Keep investing in your spouse and your marriage as much as you are able. Keeping the lines of communication open is super important. Following are some conversation starters: 1. What do you need most from me? 2. Do you feel safe sharing all your feelings, positive and negative, with me? 3. How comfortable are you being emotionally intimate with me? 4. Do you think we have enough fun? 5. Do you feel like you can be yourself with me? 6. Are there things you wish you didn't have to do? 7. What can I do to make things easier for you? 8. Does it feel
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