Adjusting our perspective is a matter of tweaks and cleaning up the static. It’s so easy to just settle in and stay stuck where we are, isn’t it? I know we all go through periods when we’re not interested in adjusting our perspective, which is OK as long as we don’t stay there.
Let’s always be seeking ways to change our outlook and bring greater joy to our world of unending pain and suffering. Let’s put some helpful tools in our “perspective toolbox:”
Write it down — Keep a journal to write your dreams as well as your frustrations. No filter, just write. This is not about writing well; it’s about dumping thoughts and feelings on paper. Getting it out is valuable to our healing.
Listen to uplifting music — Whatever kind of music soothes you, listen to that. It might be jazz, country, rock, gospel, or just nature sounds. It amazes me how music can positively affect our mood and state of being.
Get honest feedback — Ask someone who’s willing to be really honest with you, and not just say what they think you want to hear. Ask them if they’ve noticed things you talk about that bring a light to your face, or even things that seem to drag you down. We can’t change what we’re not aware of.
Envision your future — While we are guaranteed only this moment, it’s good to dream about what our future could be like. Don’t let negative things drag you down. Maybe create a dream board so you have a visual picture of what you’re striving for. Use words and pictures. Let your imagination run wild and have fun with it.
Delete negative self-talk — Erase all those mental tapes that spout negative thoughts and words. For example, if you’re prone to say, “I’m never going to get better,” replace that with something like, “I’m getting a little better everyday.” You are truly amazing; keep reminding yourself of that.
Be thankful for all you have — I have a gratitude journal that I try to write at least three things I am thankful for each day. It could be simple things like my cat curled up next to me, I got a good parking spot, I cooked a healthy meal. It’s helpful on those harder days to take a look at all the things you’ve written in your gratitude journal. It can really change your outlook and remind you there are good things, too.
Learning to reframe — I’m sure you’ve heard it said that perspective is everything. Reframing takes some of the old/negative thoughts and changes the way you see it. Changing the way we see our diagnosis can be very empowering. Sometimes that just means letting go and grabbing onto faith, seeing something beyond ourselves, strengthening us for the battle. It’s a changing of direction on our path and making different choices. Don’t get trapped in the mire of discouragement; it will keep you stuck.
What are some tools you’ve used to change your perspective?
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