One Is the Loneliest Number

One Is the Loneliest Number
Isolation breeds loneliness for the fibromyalgia patient. It is sad to watch our world become smaller and smaller. The less we can do, the more that others stay away. People stop trying to include us because of our cancellation track record. I get it, but I sure as heck don't like it. I'm guessing you don’t either. If we're not careful, the pain of loneliness can wreak havoc on our emotions, ushering in depression and the feeling that we no longer matter. We need to be careful not to sell ourselves short and start thinking we're not important or worth spending time with. With fibromyalgia, it's important to develop and maintain healthy coping skills. Sometimes that requires us to reframe our chronic health and work on maintaining a positive attitude. Negativity breeds discontent and makes us feel bad about ourselves, which opens the door to a lonelier existence. I believe in taking a negative situation and looking for the positives. Some examples would be: • I'm in bed so much of the time, but I can use some of that time to write and encourage others. • I almost never have the energy to go places, but I can share pizza and a movie at home with my husband. • I feel bad that my husband has to do so much, but I use that thought to motivate me to think of small ways that I can show my appreciation for him. • It drives me crazy that my house is not as tidy as I'd like it to be, so I've decided that having a clean house (sanitation-wise) is better than a tidy house. We were created for connection, and when that doesn't happen, we can spiral downward pretty quickly. So, don't be afraid to reach out and tell others what you need. Discriminate when choosing whom to invite into your life, understanding the limited energy (physically and emotionally
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  1. Krystina Fargnoli says:

    Thank you for this. It helps remind me, especially the first 2 paragraphs. Plus the things you listed are great!

  2. mark barwin says:

    Robin ….. what does a a spouse do that has a fibro wife who wants no help, does not wish to talk about it and even becomes abusive verbally if i do ask a question or try to comfort her. I love her and I do care but am at my wits end as to why the “good” has to be seen and treated as a “bad” thing. Can you help me…PLEASE!

    • Robin Dix says:

      Mark, you are in a tough spot. It sounds like you need to have a conversation about it and find out why she feels that way (listen without interrupting)

      Then you could present her with a pretty pad of paper and let her know if there is anything you can do to be more helpful in any given day to just write it down. Perhaps that will take the pressure off of you both.

      How long ago was she diagnosed?

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