Isn’t it amazing the things people say when they find out that you have fibromyalgia? They probably know little to nothing about it, and yet they are very free with their advice. Have you had that happen to you? I’m fairly certain you have, and I’d love it if you’d share your experiences in the comments section.
Have you ever had someone tell you that you’d feel better if you exercised more? For some people, that may be true to a point, but for people like me who experience post-exertional malaise, that’s not good advice. Pushing yourself to do workouts may backfire, as you may find yourself in bed for several days trying to recuperate.
Eat better, feel better
How about this one: If you just ate healthier, you’d get better. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for eating as healthy as you can afford to, but it’s not going to cure you or keep you from experiencing pain and other symptoms. You may experience them to a lesser degree, but then again, you may not.
Get out there!
I’ve had people tell me that if I just got out more, I’d feel better. There are times that’s true, but what they don’t understand is that we have to weigh every choice and be certain that we’re willing to pay the price.
When my son got married a couple of months ago, I had a 90-minute round-trip drive and was only able to stay for a couple of hours. My son understood. I did pay the price for the next three days. I knew I would, but it was certainly worth the cost.
Just get more sleep
Another one: If you only got enough sleep, you’d feel better. I know we all wish that were true. For me, personally, it doesn’t matter if I get four hours or 10 hours of sleep, I feel just as fatigued when I wake up. Refreshing sleep is a much-coveted commodity among those of us with fibromyalgia. If you suffer from painsomnia, my heart goes out to to you. While I’ve experienced that a few times, it’s not my norm.
All we can really do is smile and say thank you when someone makes a suggestion that they believe will help. If it’s someone really close to you, just explain why that won’t work for you, but that you’re so thankful that they care. How do you handle unsolicited advice?
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