Pain and Parenting with Fibromyalgia

Pain and Parenting with Fibromyalgia
Are you a mother living with pain and trying to balance how to remain an effective parent? Many mothers, under normal circumstances, would agree that just being a mom is challenging enough in itself. A mother living with a chronic illness and pain may need every support system available. When the pain of fibromyalgia first set in I had no idea what was happening and where my life was headed. At first, my symptoms mimicked those of a normal mother — headaches, tired, overworked. Go figure. Mothering through pain was easier to conceal in the beginning because the initial symptoms are those any mom, or anyone else, might experience. But over time the symptoms started to last longer and presented in multiples. I still had no idea what was happening to my body. I had no idea the changes I soon would have to face as a mother. I thought I was super-mom to my family, capable of doing it all. I thought something else had to be causing the pain. Fibromyalgia and chronic illness have robbed me of valuable moments with my children. Today, I have learned to redefine those memories and, taking into account where I am in life, accept it may require defining each day. Letting go of some of the small things to enjoy the larger things has been very beneficial. For example, forgoing laundry to have a family game or movie night. I also have learned to be honest with myself and my family. It is best to be honest about where I am physically and emotionally, and not leave room for false expectations. Being honest allows my children the opportunity to learn how to deal with my illness and express their frustrations. One of the most difficult aspects for me is medications, their side effects, and finding balance. I decided to keep a journal for my kids and my husband, similar t
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  1. Still working out where my journey is headed as a mother of 2, lover of life and midwife. Blogging my way through the journey to help document my emotions. Hoping for a mostly positive journey!

  2. Thank you for sharing. I am 39 and a mother of to very active boys ages 3 and 6. Mothering really is the hardest job in the world. Add to that, the stress of a chronic illness and you have to almost have super hero powers to cope. We as fibro moms redefine the term “super mom”. *hugs*

  3. Rebel Mom says:

    Absolutely loved this blog story here … It resonated with me. From running amok as the superwoman, superfriend, superworker, superparent, superboss, super-pta-supporter, neighborhood volunteer/student/writer/activist etc left this mom frequently doing many things and much for others …. Much of which I wanted to do but should have said no more often for putting my life, balance, and needs first. I’m not surprised my body broke down now after reading: “When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress” Paperback – by Gabor Mate M.D. (Author),



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