I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”

The quote is attributed to the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. His exact words were, “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” I think he had a good point, and it’s a philosophy I’ve held for a long time. Though, I wouldn’t want someone throwing that quote at me because that would be insensitive. However, I believe that as long as I’m still breathing, I have a purpose to fulfill.

Pain and suffering are as much a part of our experience as joy and laughter. We are often thrown curveballs when we least expect it, and those unpleasant surprises can leave us feeling discouraged. When things start to go awry with our health, the situation can snowball.

All of the difficult challenges I’ve faced in my life — abuse, divorce, unplanned pregnancy, surgeries, and multiple chronic illnesses — have made me a stronger person on the inside, even though the outside is still suffering. While this might seem paradoxical, it’s true for me.

I’ve always been a “glass-half-full” kind of gal. I try to look on the bright side and find things to be grateful for every day. To continually focus on the negative seems like a fruitless endeavor. I believe that when we adopt a gloomy perspective, our health suffers more.

Because chronic pain is pervasive, we need some positive things to hold onto to see us through. I’m not saying that it’s easy to do, but it’s necessary. Where we place our attention will affect our health for good or ill — the choice is ours. Celebrating small victories, grounding yourself, spending time outdoors, practicing self-care, and serving others are some of the positive things we can do to maintain our health. 

So, in relation to the quote I started this column with, when I am faced with horrible symptoms and pain, I realize that when I come out the other side, I am indeed stronger. 

I would love to hear your thoughts. What does this saying mean to you? Do you find it insulting or encouraging?

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