Sometimes people just want to be nice, so they might say things that seem fine in their heads but it doesn’t come out as they thought. If you have a chronic illness, it means you will have to live with that disease for the rest of your life. Sure, you will have ups and downs and some moments will be better than others, and at some point you will feel better, but the disease will always be with you.
Even though they might want to show you support, saying that things will get better is not fair. Living with a chronic illness is like being on a roller coaster all the time; you can’t predict what’s going to happen next.
They keep saying if u loose weight it will all go away ,well i lost weight ,And i still have Fibromyagia so they are just making me feel krazy
I have been told I am not really sick, that I can change it if I want to. That I am not trying hard enough to. I have been told by now with all the doctors I have seen I should be better. I get the loose weight comment too, but I was normal weight when I started to get it. I am in treatment for Lyme disease by my primary doesn’t believe that I should be. I have to try something. I have arthritis too but everyone says I am too young to have it so they don’t believe me. I am so sick of all of it. No one gets it. I miss a lot of events because I don’t feel well. I don’t have a lot of friends here and I am kind of isolated. I just got divorced because of the illness and the things I can not do and that he doesn’t believe me when I say I am in pain or too tired. I have several illnesses. I have chronic pain from other issues. I wish people would understand and not judge people with fibromyalgia. I heard on tv the other night that people who have fibro and ADHD decide they have it and made it sound like its fake. My son has ADHD. I wish to find a cure or a better life. I want to eat better but going gluten free is hard. Well, I am going to learn Reiki and hope it helps. Please keep supporting us.
Thank you for the heartfelt comment Renee. You are absolutely right… people simply do not understand if they do not have a chronic pain. One of the worst things to hear is “You are not trying hard enough.” I hope you are able to find some relief soon through different activities. Diet is a major component, but like you said… it can be difficult! 🙂
I would not want anyone to understand the way myself and many here do have difficulties-all I truly want/ need is acceptance rather than using my illness as a reason to be excluded.
O believe I have developed an attitude and just take things too personally-anyone else understand how this feels??