While there may have been a traumatic event that triggered your fibromyalgia, it is NOT your fault. You didn't bring it on yourself. Your body may have been predisposed to FM, which probably is why you were symptomatic long before your diagnosis. Feeling guilty and thinking you may have been able to do something to avoid it is futile, and a waste of your valuable energy.
You may feel guilty because you're unable to do even the simplest things for yourself or your family. Perhaps the guilt comes from no longer being able to hold down a job.
A few things that can cause guilt with FM
Whether you are the sole provider, or help to contribute to the family financially, there's a lot of guilt and grief when you no longer can work. Your friends and family may not really understand why you can't work and that may contribute to your guilt feelings. Let it go.
Cooking and cleaning:
As a woman, I feel this especially when we're no longer able to keep up with cleaning and laundry. Cooking becomes a dreaded activity, instead of a normal activity, in your day. When I'm particularly fatigued I always opt for what's easy: Sandwiches, pizza delivered, frozen meals, or even cereal. FM takes away so much.
If you have young or school-aged children, the guilt can become paralyzing. We can't play like we'd like to, or take our kids to the park or museums. We feel guilty if we spend a lot of time in bed or on the sofa, not