No matter what each day brings us, at some there will be a challenge or two with which we must deal. For those of us living with a chronic invisible illness, the challenges we face might be more pronounced.
I have learned a lot about my mental strength, tolerance and coping abilities. Sometimes you don’t know how strong you are until you have no choice but to learn through experience. I recently was hit with some obstacles, several that came all at once.
It started a few months ago. August was not an easy month. My total income was cut by half. I was receiving a little financial housing help, which made my rent very affordable. In August this help ended and I had to reapply. When it was finally reinstated my lease was up and I was behind in rent. It was too late, and my landlord asked me to move because I could not get caught up.
On top of that, my ex (divorcing after ending a 16-year marriage) decided to stop paying child support after it was raised recently to more than $500 a month. (That really isn’t a lot if you think about it, but not having that income became the straw that broke the camel’s back, so to speak). The only way I could cope with everything that was happening was to move in with family for until I can get back on my feet. I realize now this decision probably was the best thing for my kids and me at this point. Sometimes we have to make drastic changes in response to great adversity.
A week ago we put most of our belongings into two storage units and moved in with my mom. I am now at the house where I grew up, which is both comforting and confusing. At times I feel like a failure, like I let my kids down, or that I let myself down. Moving back home is not something that most nearly-40-year-olds would handle well, but I have to look at the positive side of things. For example, I get to spend more time with my mom, there’s room for gardening and for my boys to play outside (we had a very tiny yard), and I have some peace and quiet, which allows time to reflect on what I need to do next.
In the midst of the move I knew a fibro flare was coming. It never fails when I’m under extreme stress or pressure. I either get sick or I have a flare. When I go through a flare the main things that happen are major joint and muscle pain, and horrible migraines.
Here are some of the things I have learned really help when I’m dealing with a flare. The first thing I do is drink a lot of tea with fresh ginger. Fresh ginger has anti-inflammatory properties and can take away my pain. I also put fresh ginger in fruit smoothies. I also had ibuprofen as one of my normal prescribed medications, which also helps with inflammation. Taking hot baths or using a hot tub or sauna really tends to bring a lot of relief, as well.
One of the best pieces of advice I can offer is to find a way to meditate or clear your mind. Stress can really play tricks on your mind and body, so taking time to relax is a great way to relieve stress. Find something you really enjoy doing to refocus your mind and cope with stress. I really enjoy, painting, sewing and crafting, or even the simple act of reading a book, to bring some mental clarity and relieve stress.
For those of you faced with any kind of challenges. When life doesn’t give you lemons, plant your own tree.
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