Now that we have rung in the new year, it can be a challenging time for many of us. Christmas is over, winter is in full force, and depression tends to worsen. So, rather than come up with some unrealistic resolutions, which we seldom keep, let’s instead resolve to do some things to love and accept ourselves with more gentleness.
A resolution is a decision to do, or not do, something. For example, I will stop eating junk food. A resolve, on the other hand, involves ongoing action with a purpose in mind. What are some things you’re resolving to do? Below is a list of 10 resolves from which you might choose:
1. Every day I will focus on what I CAN do and not dwell on the things I can’t do.
2. I will do at least one thing daily that brings joy to my heart.
3. I will acknowledge my limitations, but I won’t let them define me or hold me back.
4. I will find at least one person every day to hug. (The dental assistant at my dentist office loves to see me when I come. She knows she’ll get two great hugs from me.) We all need hugs for our emotional health.
5. I will choose to eat MORE whole foods and LESS processed/junk foods. Trust me, your body will thank you.
6. I will move more. Sometimes it might be a short walk, or some gentle yoga. Sometimes it’s walking from one room to another. As long as I keep moving.
7. I will keep a gratitude journal and write down at least three items every day that I’m grateful for. That way, when tough days come, those memories can lift your spirits.
8. I will set aside my pride and ask for help when I need it. For running errands, cleaning, help with meals, etc. Don’t rob others of the blessing of helping you. You see it as inconveniencing others; they see it as a way they can do something practical for you.
9. I will work on better self-care. It’s really important to take care of YOU. Say “no” when you need to, without guilt. Healthy boundaries are so important. Pace yourself. It’s tempting I know, to catch up on things you’ve been unable to do on your bad days, when you’re feeling pretty good. But we both know you’ll pay the price for that.
10. I will speak kindly more often than I criticize. Kind words are like apples of gold. Critical words are like rottenness to the bones.
Don’t make resolutions that you know you probably won’t keep. Resolve to do positive and healthy things for yourself every day.
Make 2017 a year of acceptance, embracing change, more joyful moments, saying “no” when you need to and “yes” when you can. I’m praying this year is an amazing one for you in every way!
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